This is an area to discuss things I've done with my husband over the years to strengthen our relationship as well as observations I've witnessed that might serve to help others.
My husband and I have been together a long time. We met when we were 17 years old, got married at 21 and will celebrate 15 years of marriage this summer. That is a long time to be with the same person.
Recently, he was unhappy with his work situation. We also began getting frustrated with the current political issues in the United States. We discussed how we needed a change. Something big. So, we decided we needed to look at opportunities outside of our comfort zone. We still like our chosen careers: I'm a Nurse, he's a Civil Engineer. We wanted to keep doing these things. But we wanted to change it up. So, we started looking at other English-speaking countries to spread our wings to. We landed on New Zealand.
New Zealand boasts amazing landscapes, straight-talking people, the All Blacks, Lord of the Rings was filmed there, and they have a nationalized healthcare system. That was enough for us to say "Why Not?" So we became those people you haven't met that are leaving the USA because of the upcoming election.
First off--it's not easy to leave the country. If you want to do this, you don't just move in a day. We have been working on this since November 2015. It's expensive. And time consuming. And you have to wait on a lot of different people to make decisions on your behalf before you can do it.
Miraculously, my husband received a job offer that he accepted in Auckland to fund our move. His job starts on June 7th (originally June 6th, but that is, apparently, the Queens Birthday). His Visa was approved last week and he flew out on our pre-arranged flights that we bought several months ago yesterday. However, my Visa and our children's Visas are NOT approved yet. So we just moved in with my parents.
One of the biggest things this has done is point out to both of us what our roles have become as partners. I was the excited, positive, driving force pushing us ahead with the moving plans. I've researched areas of Auckland I want the kids to go to school in, what areas are easiest for his commuting and what activities we could pursue on our weekends. He was the paperwork guru. He has all of our financial files and paperwork regarding our Visas put together and organized. We had to spend so much time reading each other in on our separate activities this past week that we barely had time to acknowledge the fact that we'd be single for an unknown amount of time.
So here I am, missing his being here and wondering what he's doing. We didn't even set up times to talk. I did, however, warn him that I would go full Jurassic Park on him and send in the National Guard to retrieve him if he didn't call me by at least the middle of today. Fingers crossed for safe travels and to seeing him in some unknown future.